The most beautiful thing a woman may wear is confidence.
Welcome back to our discussion! Your interest in my blog says you are a woman of great discernment. In my first blog post, a Chi Chapter sister asked a question with two components. The first part asked about conversation skills with visiting alumnae. In this part I will talk about working with the expectations of wanting to impress older sisters with your ability to easily flow through social situations important to the Chapter.
Much is written about making first impressions. Obviously, as an Alpha Delta Pi Sister, you demonstrated the ability to make a wonderful first impression during recruitment. Let's chat more about sustaining those positive impressions on others. #ADPi
There is a splendid quote commonly attributed to Oscar Wilde. "Be yourself, everyone else is taken." Being real and believable are attributes which earn respect and credibility. Older sisters enjoy conversing with and mentoring young women who are comfortable in their own skin. There are times when you may be having a bad day and put on a happy face even though you feel otherwise. This is very different than someone who comes across as fake. When you are having an off day, using positive affirmations can help you to re-frame things and to make good impressions. An example of a positive affirmation is to say to yourself, "If I have good thoughts, they will shine out of my face like sunbeams." #BeYourself #PositiveAffirmations
Older sisters respect younger sisters who are positive in their demeanor and their interactions with peers. It is quite tiresome to hear sisters make uncomplimentary comments about people or to watch them roll their eyes after someone leaves a conversation. This reflects poorly on the person demonstrating this behavior and not the person about whom the comments were directed. In each interaction you have with others, ponder whether or not you left others feeling better having interacted with you.
I know social media and telephones capture your attention. Most of our Alpha Xi Chapter Alumnae remember the house phone at the bottom of the stairs the whole house shared. We took that phone off the hook during events to avoid interruptions. Showing you know how to be fully present during meetings and sorority events shows a strength of character. Have you ever walked into an office, unable to see someone's headset and wonder if what was said was directed at you? It's a discomfiting feeling. The purpose of manners is to make others feel comfortable. Turn phones completely off and keep them out of sight. Fewer distractions will help you to focus and relax. Enjoy the moment and make memories!
Be helpful and proactive. Alumnae are eager to be involved with collegian sisters. It is gratifying when it feels like a two way street. Alumnae like to share ideas and collaborate with you. It can be a better experience when you say things like, "How can I help?" or "What may I do?" The icing on the cake for us is when you demonstrate excellence in following through with what you promise.
Alumnae are part of your tribe rooting for your success. We are honored to be a part of your sorority experience. I am so pleased you care enough about your own personal growth to ask questions!
Loyally,
Pi
Turning self-consciousness into self-confidence
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